Appeasing the gods or feeding the crows?

I have some people in my life that tend to impose their thoughts and actions upon my life in thinking that, of course their plan for my life is the best seat in the house and I should just sit back and watch the show. The main problem with this is the fact that the person who is imposing the advice/crazy rationality is so terribly damaged that they themselves shouldn't even be thinking of giving advice so that they can put forth some of this wonderfully "creative" work into the state of disrepair in their own lives. There is a problem also if in fact the person is close to you and the potential of them handling some helpful advice for their own lives in a positive manner being rather dismal, one is then faced with two choices: 1. Inform the individual about their unhealthy state of being and risk an explosion while refuting their advice. Or 2. Thanking that individual for the advice and then dance around the subject in high hopes that it will simply disappear without the discomfort of stepping on the persons toes that could potentially result in an equally devastating conversation about step one. So then in a result do we feed the ego or do we heal the source that is in a state of disillusionment?